Press Release
Saturday, October 14th, 2006:: Guys and gals, I can’t even begin to describe how much your calls, emails, messages, sms’s, comments, etc. have meant to me. Never woulda thought that when I lost a considerably huge part of my life, I would in turn "regain" you all back. (I realize that you guys were never "gone" anyhow.) I underestimated you guys. I thought I was alone, but you proved me wrong. Y’all are strewn across the globe and yet you still care. Wow. A big thanks… And I feel much, much happier today. =)
:: I’ve always been lousy at making people feel better. You can ask my friends, they’ll testify to it. It’s not that I make them feel worse (at least I hope I don’t). It’s that words just don’t come to me. But, I’ve learned that being there for them is all it takes, really. Don’t set that bar too high. You can’t heal them. Time heals. Or other things. And in the meantime, the seemingly minuscule action of just listening or sending encouraging sms’s or jayus emails (An-Chan. Who else.) will be the next best thing you can do for the disheartened one, if you can’t physically be there.
:: Somewhere down the path of healing I also did some self-rediscovery… Who I am as me, not who I am in terms of what I’m supposed to be, specifically in a significant other’s eyes. Sometimes, subconsciously, my people-pleaser self takes over and may deceive myself into thinking that the by-product of conforming to some image is, actually, who I honestly am. So I’ve rediscovered things that I personally enjoy, not what I "like" to do when with person A or person B. Just for the record though, it’s not like I had become a complete fake. I did grow to like things I never would’ve considered trying if not because of a previous relationship.
:: Anyways, on a totally random subject, looks like Yahoo!Mail has evolved! I really dig their new Beta. I’m also in love with Gmail’s group conversations method. Now if Yahoo incorporates that same grouping method, I believe they’ll take over the universe.
:: Now that I’m single, I can put stuff up that I wasn’t able to when I was in a relationship. Like tips. Because back then the singles would be all cynical: "She thinks she knows more than I do just ‘cos she has a boyfriend." Well, now we’re on the same turf, my friend. But uh, maybe let’s NOT do "healthy break-up tips" anytime soon. Scandalous.
:: Top 10 Ways Couples Meet (Source: Pew Research Center)
38% — At work/school
34% — Through family/friends
13% — At a nightclub, bar, cafe, or party
3% — On the internet
2% — At church
1% — By chance, like on the street
1% — They’re neighbors
1% — At the gym
1% — Through a dating service
6% — Other ways: They grew up together, etc.
The lesson here is: if we wanna meet someone, we gotta cover all grounds. Go to work, school, clubs, bars, cafes, parties, church, gym, meet up with families/friends/long-lost friends (tell them to bring their friends), walk everywhere (see list: "By chance"), get to know your neighbors, get on the internet and dating websites/agencies… Ya know, ALL grounds.
:: By the way, CuteOverload.com has been posting seriously ugly pics lately. I didn’t mind back then when I sent in 123,456,789 pics of Jaka and none got posted, cos the pics that did make it were pretty cute. But recently? Things like this get me mad.
The following should’ve been posted, if this world has any justice:
Introducing Simba, the palm-sized chi. He’s much smaller than my cow slippers, unimaginable.
Simba and Dora, beautifully posed by their master Peeter (extra "E" was intentional).
:: My online portfolio is getting a taste of Flash! Wheee. Fine, prolly not as exciting to you as it is to me. Coming to screens near you… StephanieSalim.com: The Rebirth.
